CHANGE YOUR STORY

It all starts by changing your story, the inner story you tell yourself everyday about yourself. What we consciously and subconsciously affirm to ourselves becomes our reality. How do I know this? Because I spent years stuck in victim mode, I was fighting a battle no one understood, poor me. The trouble was even once I'd been through intense recovery for my eating disorder I still kept the scars open and used it as an excuse and a justification for a lot of my behavior and decisions around food.

I'd made my eating disorder my identity and I wasn't ready to let that go yet. I was still holding on, trying to reach that goal of being perfect and pure. I was addicted to my story, I was so used to living in victim mode, 'life happens to me, nothing good ever comes of it' that I didn't know how to see things different anymore.

The stories that we tell ourselves and the feelings that we have about them, become like well-worn grooves in our brains. Quite literally the neurons that fire develop paths, and the more they fire in that particular way, the more likely they are to fire that way again. Those stories aren't necessarily the truth, and those emotions are often nothing more than habit. The fact that the grooves are so deep means that we're more likely to keep creating the same types of situations over and over again (circumstances that make us feel, say, frustrated, powerless, or stuck) just because it's familiar. It's what we know, it becomes all we know.

It's true when people say that you create your own reality. It took me years to understand this, I was constantly looking OUTSIDE for that acceptance I was so desperately seeking always asking 'Am I good enough yet?' but once I started looking inside myself I then finally understood.

I started by asking myself these questions:

What is stopping me from letting go and moving on?

What do I get out of holding onto this particular story?

What am I so afraid of?

With this beginning I started to rewrite my story, I started to discover my life purpose, my pleasures and my aspirations. It wasn't easy, self refection never is, in fact it can be incredibly uncomfortable and the tough part is that, no one else can set off on this journey for you, it's something you have to do yourself. You have the choice to let go of that thinking habit and that familiarity because you do deserve to be happy and fulfilled, you deserve to stop being the victim of your own circumstances and start living to your full potential. You'll be amazed at the freedom that comes with it. So be the hero of your own story, you have the right to be that person you've always dreamed of being, to have the job or join that yoga class. You have the right to step outside and say I deserve this all you need to do is believe, rewrite that inner dialogue and learn to trust yourself and the universe